Here is an easy wedding dance that keeps things simple, and brings a bit of magic to your wedding day.
For the dance of your life, you need a little preparation. Too much and you'll get overload and will likely forget everything you've learnt as soon as you step on the dance floor (when everybody's looking). Not enough and you just shuffle about looking embarrassed.
This guide assumes that you are here because you have little or no dance training and that you'd like to dance an actual dance at your wedding rather than just shamble around in a self-conscious little circle.
And good wedding dances are now expected by a lot of guests. Why put all that effort into the reception, the dress, the food and then for this infamous rite of passage, make no effort at all?
OK, that doesn't seem to add up. But unfortunately, people are now going too far in the opposite direction, spending huge sums on courses of private lessons to learn complex and demanding wedding dance routines.
The sad thing is that, in most cases we've heard of, this almost always ends in disappointment.
Cheap to learn
Easy to learn
On the big day, you'll...
probably remember it
Potentially (very) expensive to learn
Difficult to learn (unless you are a very experienced dancer)
On the big day, you'll...
probably forget it
We've already established that you're here because you don't have much
(or any) dance experience. So trying to cram in all the training before
the wedding (when there's a million other things to think about) and
then trying to execute a perfect dance routine like you've been at it
for years, and in front of your nearest and dearest, and all on a day
which is adrenalin packed already, is often a recipe for disaster.
heard many, many stories of couples spending up to $600 (yes, really)
on private lessons, only to forget the whole routine as soon as they
attempt the first step on the dance floor. And what then?
Guests will probably know they've been practicing and will have high expectations. And they've spent so much money it never occurred to them to have a plan B. So they just shuffle around, not doing much, and begging everybody else to join them on the dance floor to hide their awkwardness.
That's just disappointing all round.
So what do you do?
Take things a step at a time and we'll show the simple, fail-safe solution that delivers an easy wedding dance that anybody can master.
Simplest of all is the ballroom waltz box step. Look out for tracks that have a simple 3/4 beat, that is, 3 beats in a bar. So you should be able to count 1,2,3, 1,2,3, to the music.
Well, firstly, you're going to be the center of a lot of attention.
So keeping it simple is surely the way to go. Adding to the pressure of an already momentous day by trying to remember a complex dance routine just isn't going to get you good results.
Use the theme and style of your wedding to help determine what sort of dance you should do (if you haven't already picked your wedding track).
If you are going to wear a very big tiered dress, then doing a Latin routine won't have much effect as your feet and legs won't be visible.
Latin is better suited to a more contemporary look, with Ballroom dancing being much better for the traditional style of wedding and the dress that goes with it.
Staying with the dress, the bride will probably be wearing a style of dress that she's not used to.
If you are the bride, make sure you know what your true range of movement is. Are you likely to catch your heel on the hem of a long dress? If so, make sure you practice keeping your steps very close to the floor. Slide and glide the foot, rather than stepping.
Also, if the dress has a train, make sure you practice holding the train in such a way that you can dance your steps without having to heave yards of fabric around behind you.
Guys, bear in mind that due to the style of the dress, you may not be able to hold your bride in a bone-crushingly close grasp.
A good basic Ballroom or Latin hold shouldn't be that close anyway, so practice holding your partner in a way that leads her while still allowing her to breathe! That way you'll neatly avoid stepping on the dress, too. Brian shows two different basic holds here...
Hold your partner properly. Take the time to find the hold that you are both comfortable with and practice going in and out of hold as often as you possibly can, in the kitchen, when you greet each other after a day at work, after you've brushed your teeth and are getting ready for bed, really any time. Just go into hold, dance a single step and then out of hold again.
Get used to your partner's height, and where exactly to place your hands so that you both feel comfortable. This way, when you are actually performing your wedding dance, if you do lose the thread of what you're doing, you can easily and quickly get back into hold and feel reassured, so you can quickly regroup and carry on.
And talking about holds, try to end your dance in a hold that's a bit of a pose - this serves a couple of purposes.
Firstly, obviously, it brings the dance to a definite finish - well done, you've made it through and can catch your breath a little and enjoy the moment.
Second, it's nice for your guests to be able to take a photo of you both in a posed dance hold - it's very romantic.
And lastly it signals to your guests that your dance has ended and that it's time for them to join you on the dance floor.
Congratulations! You made it through a simple, beautiful, romantic, easy wedding dance that will give you happy memories for years to come.
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Over the years, we have accumulated many learning-to-dance horror stories. But none are more horrific than the things that can and do go wrong during wedding dances. We have simply too many to tell, but there are a few noticeable themes to wedding dance disaster stories.
In no particular order, they are
Losing balance (sky-high wedding heels are usually to blame for this one - please don't forget to dance your wedding dance through in heels that are the same height as your wedding shoes, so you get used to them. No good only being able to do your wedding dance in sneakers, now is it?)
Heel caught in hem (see above for the heel warning, but this carries the extra indignity of you then have to sweep around in a tattered dress for the rest of the day)
Falling over on the slippery dance floor (Gents, this is usually all you. You're not going to be in sneakers either, are you? And those lovely, shiny formal shoes probably have incredibly smooth leather soles. Break them in a little by dancing your wedding dance on a smooth floor - the kitchen floor is usually good for this. If you don't, as soon as you step on that dance floor, it might as well be an ice rink)
Wardrobe malfunctions (in the name of all that is decent, if you don't want to end up the star of a viral video for all the wrong reasons, do not attempt any dance moves that your dress cannot contain. Strapless dresses combined with energetic movements of the arms above the head - what kind of wedding dance is that anyway??? - spell almost certain catastrophe. Avoid, please)
Forgetting the routine (finally, the most common and already outlined above. Don't pay a boat-load of money to learn something that Fred Astaire would find challenging and then forget it all on the big day. It is your wedding after all so K.I.S.S. - Keep It Simple, Stupid!)
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